Fault and blame. Again?

What do you do when you are told you are to blame for things, that things are your fault, when you disagree? My only responses ( after inevitably failing an initial plea with logical explanation or just voicing disagreement) seem to be:
1. Consider I must be wrong, become depressed about what an awful person I am to be at such fault without even realising it.
2. Set about proving that it is not my fault, by displaying necessary levels of pettiness, allowing for a moment of satisfaction before being told,what a terrible person I am to do that, becone depressed about being a bad person, unworthy of self defense.
3. Ignore it. Then be told I’m irresponsible, dismissive, inconsiderate, become depressed about being a horrible inconsiderate blameworthy person failing to take responsibility for their actions.
If someone blames me then I am blamed: a defensive and sad place to he. No good ever comes of this. Not one iota.
Yet it keeps on coming around uninvited to my waking life.

What is the need to blame? It is a dysfunctional, unproductive set of roles, rousing only bitterness and sadness.

When asked how I felt about recent events, I said I was disappointed in general, but accepted it. I was dogged until I pinpointed the people I was most disappointed with and asked why I refuse to blame them….well, it’s just how they are, behaviour is a product of conditioning, and people have limits, I accept these, and though I cant help but feel a little disappointed, I can forgive that, I can accept it and move on…why can’t others respect my choice to live this way? It has been so hard to replace blame with understanding and consideration but I’m happy with that change…why do others have to try and drag me backwards? 😦

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Christmas lack of wisdom

Ok the secretive ones are over.
Let the verbal assault on the screen continue.
Xmas is a funny old time dont you think? Everyone dedicates this time of year to buy each other presents and share goodwill and indulge themselves, but what about the rest of the year? Do you not think people deserve random gifts or indulgences? Why the need for an ‘excuse’ to be merry and close and generous? I’m not saying I’m excluded from this! I do it too….just before the big day there is a scramble for gift ideas before time runs out and panic, and annoyance when nothing presents itself! But if I could only buy gifts I see through the year which I think so-and-so might like then December neednt be so fraught but there is always, what if I see something better later on?oh no, I could end up buying two years worth of gifts, and that wouldn’t do, how would I get my pre xmas adrenalin rush?