One day last week I thought was unequivocally a bad day. Not just a bit rubbish but downright unfairly, unacceptably crappy and depressing. It was one of those days that genuinely have you questioning why you hauled your ass out of bed, or indeed, whether you actually did was this all some horrible mundane dream? Just one of those days where nothing is going to go right, no matter how hard you try. Bad things coming not in threes but rather in the dozen..
now to bemoan my lot (though honestly, looking at the weather conditions that others are having to deal with recently, these are very much small fry.
- Upon waking I realised I had contracted SO’s cold
- On the way to work I was yelled at (by a colleague!) to get out of his way!
- I was running a couple of mins late for a meeting when I got distracted by another colleague and my boss caught us chatting when I should have been in the meeting…
- In the meeting I failed to comprehend a fairly simple hypothesis and looked entirely gormless
- After the meeting, boss snuck off to a secret seminar that another group in the unit knew all about – so they all went and I could not so missed out
- While cleaning my bench I stabbed myself with a hypodermic (dirty) that I had re-sheathed the day before, but it had bent around and pierced the sheath (and them my glove and finger)
- When transferring precious purified protein from one receptical to another, I ommited to check the security of the transfer vessel and deposited 2/3 of the protein on my bench.
- I lunched alone
- The machine I was using was being stupid, so I had to spend ages in the cold room (4c)
- shortly into my cycle home I discovered I had a puncture and had to return to the lab to change inner tube
- I broke a nail fixing bike
- when I got home I was yelled at
BUT somehow I managed not to let all of these things get to me, I chose instead, to see that things could have been a good deal worse and I was grateful for that.
- A cold is a very minor ailment, quickly fixed, other have to suffer chronic conditions
- At least he yelled and didn’t crash into me (how embarrassing would THAT be!)
- At least it looked like I had an excuse for being late
- At least I didn’t pretend to understand, this way, despite looking dumb, I got an explanation and understood…eventually
- turns out boss thought the seminar was private so she wasn’t purposefully hiding it from us..
- H & S said that i was not at risk as luckily the contamination was a defined source and not a high risk
- Somehow I managed to get enough sample at the end (just) for what I needed
- eating alone is faster
- I was able to fix the machine
- I was able to change my inner tube unaided
- nails grow back.
The following days have posed more upsetting events, such as the loss of Casper. I didn’t find out for sure until last night that he’d been put to sleep on Wed afternoon. There was this part of me hoping that he’d made an amazing recovery and it has been undecided and he’d still be running around full of life but . no. He has appeared lively and healthier the two days before the event, even managing to buck and canter!! making my friend question if the right decision had been made, but when he was led into the trailer to depart he collapsed and could not get up. My poor friend had to see him struggling and grounded even before the vet went near him, but at least now we know that it was definitely the right choice, as the poor boy could have collapsed in the field alone, or in his stable, and could not have been found for hours. Obviously I am very upset to hear that Casper is no longer with us, but the most upsetting thing is knowing that he actually must have suffered in his collapse and trying to get up again. At least he didn’t have long before the end. My friend was too distraught and crying too much to tell me about it until I asked yesterday evening, and she was clearly trying to minimise my upset. After hearing the news, I was offered a hug from SO, which I accepted, but then he said to me in a patronizing voice “Do you want to cry? you can if you want to” to which I responded that I did NOT need his fucking permission to cry thankyouverymuch. I was then accused of being a spoilt little bitch. So I did the only thing I could – I went and bawled my eyes out in the bathroom, then apologised for being so horrible.
Amazing how difficult it is to eat when you are tearful. Honestly, it’s like you entire body has forgotten how to put food in mouth, chew and swallow.
Other annoying things have also gone wrong; bike gears, kitchen taps, work stuff, forgotten meds, forgotten pills and today I really didn’t want to get out of bed. I can’t wait for this week to be over.
I will end on a positive note.
I have now been discharged from dietetics as being healthy with regard to food attitudes / weight / food intake so now in all respects am officially in no way eating disordered. I am glad to have shrugged off the burden of that label. It is possible to totally recover from anorexia.